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Autism-Friendly Eating Out Tips

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Autism-Friendly Eating Out Tips

Posted on: December 7th, 2016 by Autism Therapy Group

 
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Eating out should always be an escape, an enjoyable, relaxing experience, but when you’re going out to eat with your kids, things don’t always go as planned. If your family has a member on the autism spectrum, these challenges may keep you at home, feeling too overwhelmed to take on the whole endeavor.

 

But it doesn’t have to be that way, and every family deserves to enjoy a nice outing where you share laughs over delicious food (that you don’t have to cook or clean – bonus!).  Here are some tips you can try to embrace going out to eat with the whole family.

 

  1. Prepare before your outing:
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Those with autism thrive on schedules and predictability, so springing a restaurant trip out of the blue may be a trigger for your child. Instead, plan and prepare ahead of time by talking about the plans, going over questions and answers such as:

 

  • Where are you going and why?
  • When are you going there? What day, what time, how much longer?
  • Who is going with you?
  • Has your child been to this restaurant before?
  • Will there be a waiting period? If so, where will you wait and how long will that be? What activities can you do while you’re waiting? Are reservations available?
  • Review the menu online with your child – what foods sound good to them?
  • Is there a special event you’re celebrating?

 

  1. Role play:
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There are several YouTube videos specifically for children and children with autism role playing different situations like going out to eat. You can watch these videos with your child and practice role playing with your family at home.

 

Simulate the restaurant experience, including the following: walking in the doors, checking in with the host, waiting, choosing seats, meeting the server, being given a menu, looking at choices and making up your mind, ordering and speaking to the server (or asking mom or dad to help), talking with the guests, etc.

 

You can also read books or point out on TV shows when families are eating out, talking about their behavior and steps in the whole process.

 

  1. Create a visual schedule:
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To coincide with your planning and preparing ahead phase, you can also create a visual schedule that will remind your child in an easy way the steps in going out to eat. Create the visual supports with your child so he or she is involved in the experience from start to finish. Some steps to consider including:

 

  • Driving or other transportation to the restaurant
  • Who will be there with your group
  • Waiting to be seated
  • Who else will be there at the restaurant (other guests, hostess, servers)
  • Menu and ordering food
  • Communicating with family while waiting for food
  • Table manners
  • Paying and leaving the restaurant

 
You can make this by hand or use an online visual tool kit or organizer to create something on the computer.
 
With proper planning and practicing, your family can enjoy a nice trip out to a restaurant. Don’t let fear get in the way – the more you try, the more you will learn, and if an obstacle arises, don’t let it throw you off track. Use it as a learning experience for how you can modify your plan and trip for the next time around.

 

How do you prepare for restaurant outings with your family?

Enjoying the Holiday Season with Your Special Needs Child

Posted on: December 7th, 2016 by Autism Therapy Group

 
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The holidays are often a stressful time for adults, filled with party engagements, shopping, spending, cooking, cleaning, and lots of preparations. As the parent of a child with special needs, sometimes the holidays can bring an extra stress, with movies, television, and commercials showing supposed “normal” families smiling and laughing through their holiday traditions.

 

But what if your family looks and feels different? What if your family doesn’t fit that cookie cutter mold (and whose does, actually?). You might feel sad that your family doesn’t match those picture perfect ones on TV; then you might feel guilty that you feel this way and ultimately you may feel alone, like you’re the only one feeling this way.

 

Shouldn’t the season be filled with love, peace, joy, and enjoying simple family moments? You don’t have to just survive this season – you deserve to embrace it! Check out these 3 tips to maximize the special time with your special needs child and your family in general.

 

  1. Lose the guilt:
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  3. How can you say yes to a cocktail party and leave your special needs child at home? How can you have a carefree night out filled with laughter when you have far more serious, pressing issues on your plate? Just because you’re the parent of a child with special needs does not mean you don’t get to enjoy time away from home.

 
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When you take time to take care of yourself, you’ll actually be a better spouse, friend, and of course, parent. So say ‘yes’ – having time away from home with your family and friends and allowing yourself to let loose a bit will help you emotionally, mentally, and physically, giving you the recharge you need to be the best parent you can to your children.

 

  1. Take on what you can:
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  3. At the same time, you don’t have to say yes to every invitation and engagement; spreading yourself too thin or putting yourself in social situations that you’re uncomfortable with never end well. Don’t worry about what your family or friends will think about you saying no – ultimately you have to decide what is best for you and your family.
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Think about activities, events, and locations that will make you and your child feel happy – isn’t that what it’s all about? Surround yourself with supportive people who will add to your experience and make your child feel comfortable. Don’t use your child as an excuse to shut yourself away or to isolate yourself, but find a happy balance of fun, engaging activities, even a small get together at home, and pushing yourself to try new, safe activities to get out in public.

 

  1. You’re not alone:
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  3. You may feel like the only family who is different, but guess what? You are not alone. In fact, there are other families in your very own community who are feeling the same way, so why not reach out to those who will understand you most?
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The holidays are a trying time for anyone, with financial burdens causing stress and having a general feeling of being spread too thin. You’re not alone. Connect with others online or through community groups to bridge the isolated gap, have your feelings validated, and unite with like-minded people.

 

There’s plenty of time to take back the holiday season, and not only ‘get through’ it, but to truly embrace it, as an individual and for your whole family.  How do you welcome the holiday season? How do you manage difficult, stressful times?